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crosspost from tumblr . in answer to arguments that somehow still go around , which assert that people with this disability or that trait not actually more aggressive than peers ... and that anyone who is , is actually just fake . destroy stereotypes and stigma , yes , but do not throw real people under bus to do so ! 

unfortunate answer : sometimes , yes , this is necessary .

some people refuse as is to listen to spoken word boundaries , believe boundary is something to push past and ignore . this is even more true if boundaries not given through spoken word , but instead things like door hangers , gestures or local sign language , and yes , even AAC devices that read written words out loud .

top that off with fact that nonverbal people may also have traits like sensory sensitivity , differences in executive function and ability to switch tasks , differences in emotional regulation , and other traits which society misunderstand or otherwise do not recognise in wider world , and these boundaries can seem almost frivolous to others .

this means not only refuse to listen because non-spoken , but refuse to listen because believe unimportant . this often means that upon disrespect , there is no other way to defend these boundaries without aggression - whether through noise like growl and scream , or physical action like slam doors and shove .

unfortunately , authority figures very quick to characterise this as nonsensical behavioural issue , something that just need to beat away . but have to face truth here : if someone already decide to disrespect boundaries , no amount of polite AAC usage will get that person to stop - but kick and scream might .

yes , sometimes people with particular disabilities and traits will be more aggressive than those without - not because that is necessarily inherent , but because that is only way to protect self . can not discuss aggression as only media stereotype , assert that every actual person is sweet angel cake at all times , and then cast out anyone who do happen to be aggressive as some kind of fake . that attitude honestly speak to lack of awareness and insight that other people might have different problems .